Privacy Policy

Last updated November 11, 2026

DateorFriend ("we", "us") runs the DateorFriend app, where people post plans and others join as a date or a friend. This policy explains what we collect, why, who we share it with, and the choices you have. Questions: support@dateorfriend.com.

What we collect

• Account: your phone number (to sign in with a text code) and your full name, which stays private. Other members only see your first name.
• Profile: first name, birthday (shown as your age, and your zodiac sign if you choose), gender, photos, an optional profile video, work, school, city, an About section, love languages, personality type, whether you have kids, pets, and your sexual orientation if you choose to give it. Orientation is private unless you turn on showing it.
• Identity check: to keep members real, you scan a government ID and take a live selfie through our verification partner, Didit. Didit processes your ID and face images to confirm you're you. We receive the result (verified or not), not a copy of your ID.
• Dates you post: title, description, time, place, who can respond, and how far it reaches. A picture of the plan is created from your title and description (never from your photos).
• Location: the place of each date, and your phone's location only when you tap "Use my location" while posting. We use it to show dates near you and how far away they are.
• Activity: your responses (as a date or a friend), who you accept or decline, pokes, people you star, invites you send, chat messages, show-up ratings, cancellations, reports and blocks.
• Invites by text: if you invite someone by phone, we save the name, number and note you enter, so the invite can be waiting for them if they join.
• Device: a push notification token so we can send you alerts, and basic technical information our service providers log to keep the app running.
• Purchases: if you subscribe, Apple handles payment. We receive your plan and its status, never your card details.

How we use it

• To run the app: show your profile and dates, match responses to the people a host is looking for, run chats, and send notifications and, if you allow them, text alerts.
• To keep people safe: verify identities, review reports, block and ban accounts that break our rules, and show each member's show-up record.
• To improve DateorFriend: understand, in total, how the app is used.

We do not sell your personal information, and we do not use it for advertising by other companies.

What other members see

Your first name, age, photos, video and the profile details you haven't hidden, your verified badge, your show-up record, and whether you have kids. Hosts see the people who responded to their dates. Your full name, phone number, ID images and orientation (unless you choose to show it) are never shown to other members.

Who we share it with

Only with companies that help us run the app, for that purpose only:

• Supabase (database, file storage and hosting)
• Didit (identity verification)
• OpenAI (creating date pictures from a date's title and description)
• Google (venue search and venue photos)
• Expo and Apple (push notifications and the App Store)
• Twilio (sign-in codes and text alerts)

We may also share information if the law requires it, to protect someone's safety, or as part of a sale or merger of DateorFriend, in which case this policy would still apply.

How long we keep it

We keep your information while your account is open. When you delete your account, we delete your profile, photos, videos, dates and messages. We may keep a small amount of information for longer where needed for safety (for example, records of a ban), to resolve disputes, or to meet legal obligations.

Your choices

• Edit your profile and hide fields like work, school, city, personality and pets at any time.
• Turn off text alerts in Edit profile, and push notifications in your iPhone's Settings.
• Block or report anyone from their profile.
• Delete your account in the app (Profile, then Delete account), or email us.
• Ask us for a copy of your information, or to correct it, at support@dateorfriend.com.

Age

DateorFriend is only for people 21 and older. We don't knowingly collect information from anyone younger, and we delete accounts we learn belong to someone under 21.

Security

We use encryption in transit, access rules on our database so members can only see what they're meant to, and limit who on our team can reach member data. No system is perfectly secure, so please use a strong lock on your phone.

Changes

If we change this policy in a meaningful way, we'll tell you in the app before the change takes effect.